Parental guidelines for dating relationships in adult children
Thinking of adult children as incapable is a disservice to them and keeps you in parental caretaking mode instead of parental advisory mode.This can damage your relationship, as the young adult feels “stifled” or that you are “controlling.” In this regard, consider the apostle Paul’s warnings to “not provoke your children to wrath” or discourage them (4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. On the other hand, some young adults may need encouragement to take more responsibility.Young adults may also need help finding ways to save, from clipping coupons to using the public library for Internet access.
This clarity goes a long way in helping everyone know what to expect.In her article “Failure to Launch” ( Kim Abraham explains that the issue with many of the young adults in today’s generation seems to be a sense of entitlement and an aversion to sacrificing. Abraham, “Gone are the days of ‘If you can’t afford it, don’t buy it.’ Today, society is all about technology and instant gratification.